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How to be a man, Sexual stamina

 ”How to be a man”, is a search phrase searched by millions.

Why?  

It means different things to different people.  For some, they define, “How to be a man”, as a man’s ability to perform sexually

Stamina, sexual stamina, endurance, lasting longer, premature ejaculation, call it what you will, it is a far bigger problem than you realize.

Sexual stamina may be a bigger issue for your partner than for you.

Why?

Because she is the one not  being satisfied.

Or if we want to flip it to the male side; he is feeling inadequate with his ability to satisfy you.

( I know full well, that 20% of the men don’t give a damn about if you are satisfied or not. This is not about them. This is about the 80% that are good caring men.)

Sex, or in the words of Mr. Clinton, “sexual relations”, is a healthy part of a balanced loving relationship. Unfortunately, some relationships fall short in the sexual part of an intimate relationship due to poor health or other issues.

Do you have the stamina to go the distance?

It takes the average man 9 minutes to reach ejaculation and the average woman 25 minutes to reach orgasm.

So either God has a hell of a sense of humor, or Eve should have never touched that damn apple.

 How long does it take for your mate to reach her orgasm?

Researchers have come up with calculations that are all over the map, from a few minutes to over an hour.  However, there does seem to be a consensus that the range between 20 to 30 minutes as the acceptable time to allow both parties to enjoy the sexual encounter.

What really matters is how long it take your mate to reach her orgasm and are you aware of that time?

According to a study from the Twin Research St. Thomas’ Hospital in London, between 12 and 15 percent of women don’t even have orgasms

The best research I have found is that it takes about 25 minutes

The good news is that the Experts, often omit a very important detail.

The Critical Detail in satisfying a woman

The small print makes all the difference.

The results of these orgasm studies may scare you. You may not be able to last that long.

They omit the most important detail of all.

When does the clock start?

What counts as the start time?

The beginning point to truly satisfy your woman, the 25-minute marathon to truly satisfy your woman starts at the beginning of physical engagement.

In other words, at the start of the foreplay!

Yes!

This is a very important detail they forget to mention.

For the, “less than fit men” it turns out that you have a fighting chance to keep her happy.

Foreplay counts!

Foreplay really does play a key role in keeping all parties happy.

At times some guys are all about themselves and are not concerned with pleasing their mate.  Robin Williams may have come up with the reason behind this selfish act. Maybe your man is just able to think about something so important as pleasing you due to a resource management issue. the resource being Blood.

How to last longer

Guys, the program is like this…  If you don’t have the ability to hit it (continue intimacy) for 25 minutes straight, you still can make it happen!

There are plenty of activities and techniques you can explore to get her going, without the vigorous exercise required in lovemaking for 25 plus minutes straight. {Time to search my Blog for details}

Communicate

To discover what is needed to please her can be as simple as communicating.

Ask her what she likes.

The number one issue in couple’s therapy is the lack of communication.

Couples simply are afraid to ask  fear ing they might offend the other with a kinky secret they are too embarrassed to reveal your thoughts.

Hello, You are married. It is Okay to talk about such things.

Save your $250 on a therapy session and just ask this simple question:

“Honey is there anything you want to try in bed that you always wanted to try?”

It may not be the perfect question for every situation, but it is a starting point.

Tip:

If she is shy about telling you, during the next sexual encounter, ever so gently take her hand and place it on your hand and ask her to show you what she likes.

 She will love your masculine assertiveness coupled to your tenderness all in the same move.

Good advice

Tip # 2:

The Masculine Man’s Manly Move

Guys, this could be a long and complicated chapter on this topic, so for now I am going to keep it really simple.

Women want to be secure! They want security in their man.

Researchers have revealed that when women have affairs, they are driven by feeling that they are not appreciated and seek men with masculine characteristics and qualities.

So for now, just go with this Manly Move and once you see how she responds to this, you can pay me lots of money…  Or better yet, she will pay me!

Hold her!

Yes hold her.

When it is time for you to ejaculate hold her tight.  Let her feel your arms around her.  Show her that you want her.  Hold her down so she cannot control the moment.  Show her that you are the Man and you are in charge of the situation.

How to satisfy a woman

For God’s sake, don’t mess up the moment by pulling out and roll over to fall to sleep.  Stay with her, stay in her.  Stay put for more than a couple of seconds, stay with it.  Show her that she is yours and you’re the Man!

Stamina and Aging

As we age, our priorities and health changes.  It becomes more challenging to stay active and lead a healthy life style.  Often we are paying the price in the bedroom as our endurance and stamina decreases.

The misnomer is that this is a result of age.

No, This is not always the case.

The more likely culprit is not being healthy.

Far too often people fall short in maintaining a good diet and a regular fitness program and the relationship suffers.

The Paris based Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development said that three out of four Americans would be overweight or obese by 2020.

We have all heard enough already about the topic of health:  Americans are fat.  We hear about the effects obesity has on our life span. We hear about the effects of medical issues tied to the lack of good health habits and we all know how it becomes limiting in our daily activities, including bedroom activities.

Factoid:

The typical man last about 9 minutes.   My thoughts are that this is due to two factors:

1.  Poor physical ability

2. Early training: as a child when masturbating you did not want to get caught, so you got it done quickly)

Other studies have attributed differences in the ability to achieve an orgasm to cultural, religious and psychological factors.

Between 12 and 15 percent of women don’t have orgasms compared to about 2 percent of men.  Males are also quicker, reaching orgasm in 2.5 minutes, while, the average time it takes for a woman to reach orgasm is 12 minutes according to another study.